Pre-Marriage Questionnaire
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Name of your future spouse?
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Last
BASIC INFO
Your First and Last Name
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Phone Number
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Phone Number
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Birth Date
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Email
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Address
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City
State
Zip Code
Country
Occupation
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Level of Education
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How long have you known each other?
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Where will you live?
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What is the desired date and time of your wedding?
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Where is the location of your wedding?
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Why have you chosen to be married by a pastor of a church as opposed to a justice of the peace?
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CHRISTIAN FAITH
What does it mean to be a Christian?
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Do you believe you are a Christian? Why?
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What is your church background and current involvement?
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Describe how you have been growing in Christ?
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MOTIVES FOR MARRIAGE
Do your parents approve of the marriage? If not, what do you think of the reasons?
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Do either of you feel pressured to get married?
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Is there some other reason for getting married that we need to speak about? (pregnancy, citizenship issue, etc.)
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Please list the qualities you see in the other person which make you want to marry him/her?
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What fears do you have about marriage or about your impending marriage?
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OUR STANDARDS AT REDEMPTION CITY CHURCH
Pastor's are responsible before God to marry people who have see God's design for marriage as true and who are prepared for the demands and responsibilities of a life-long relationship.
Here are the two qualifications:
1. You must have a similar commitment to Christ (2 Corinthians 6:14)
Unless we are in covenant relationship with God, we lack the strength and love to really meet the demands of marriage. Without God, our natural selfishness prevents a relationship from really blossoming. Sin destroyed the oneness between Adam and Eve (Genesis 3). This means that a Christian pastor cannot marry a Christian to a non-Christian. From a Christian perspective, the heart of the marriage is deep oneness. If your spouse cannot understand the central motive of your heart, and the driving force of your life, how can s/he have deep unity with you? The only way to have a tolerable marriage with a non-Christian is to push Jesus off to the periphery of your soul. Either Christ will be central and your marriage relationship will be superficial, or Christ will be on the periphery and your marriage relationship will be central. From a common sense perspective, it would be hard to find a rabbi or Muslim cleric or Christian pastor or a marriage counselor who thinks two people should marry who differ on the most core/important commitments of their lives. There can’t be intimacy if two people differ in those central life commitments. Is there agreement between the two of you in this central area? Is there a similar commitment to Christ? You need to be active together as members of a church.
2. You must be mature enough and willing to build a marriage based on the principles of God’s word.
The way to handle a machine so that it continues to work properly is to follow the directions of the manufacturer. If you ignore the instructions, there will be breakdown. Freedom comes from following the rules of the creator. This means first of all, you must be willing to talk through and solve problems God’s way. For example, have you been engaging in sexual relations? Here’s a test! Are you willing to accept God’s word that this practice is wrong?
Are you presently sexually active with your fiancé? (please answer yes or no)
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One of the most important qualities of a healthy marriage is the ability to handle conflicts and communicate appropriately. Unless you can base your relationship on communication now, how will you do so later?
Make a list of the problems or disagreements you are having now and make a list of ones you have solved satisfactorily.
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If this is not your first marriage and you are divorced, please complete the following questions.
Was your divorce Biblical (on grounds of adultery/willful desertion by an unbelieving partner)? Did you seek reconciliation with your former spouse?
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Are you currently under discipline from another church body regarding this divorce or any other matter? Are you free to remarry at this time?
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